It’s a wedding…one of the various I am to attend before my own big day arrives…whenever that will be.
One of the high-lights always – for my band of friends anyway – is the dancing: the opening of the dance floor, the fun and laughter as everyone joins in. And then I start to wonder: what would my day be like when this time arrives. I do not come from a dancing-kind-of-family. Not that I mind: I like dancing, but I’m not an addict…or is it that I simply haven’t discovered the magic of it?
Here’s the thing: My friends consist of various couples who, when looked at as individuals are definitely not dancers. Some I have known before they found their life-partners and then it always surprises me to find them on the dancefloor doing funky steps and quite at ease with themselves, where previously they would never have dreamt of it.
And then the beautiful picture emerges: so many of my friends found their dance-gurus in their partners. Nerdy boys who are shy in so many respects, bloomed into self-assured dancers, learning steps for the sake of their wives, and discovering the joy of it for themselves. Shy girls who wouldn’t think of doing anything in front of a crowd, setting the dancefloor on fire simply because their other half is beside them. Individuals with no beat at all, taking over the beat from their other halves – realizing the how to and when.
It is as if dancing is language and chapter of life all on its own. To feel so at ease with yourself and the other person that you would let them guide you in a new, unknown direction…because that’s the flipside: the worst feeling is to feel uncomfortable on the dancefloor, to make a move and realize the rest are thinking you absurd…dancing in a group and being the last one left over. But in the eyes of various couples I have seen that change to a attitude of “I don’t care anymore, because there is one person who LIKES my dancing, who ACCEPTS my dancing, who IMPROVES my dancing, who JOINS my dancing…and the rest don’t matter!”.
I pray that I can have that attitude about various things in life, and yes, more and more I hope that that same belief about God as the one inspiring these thoughts would become more and more present and reality. But we were made to partner with humans as well. God made us for eachother. May we find (and choose) the ones who would make us…not necessarily EXPERT dancers…but CAREFREE dancers!
It is such a simple thing, but such a perfect metaphor for what our partners are supposed to be for us, isn’t it? A teacher of what life can bring us if only we dare to venture out…showing us what has been inside us all along…and the best of all: to dance WITH someone is so much better than dancing alone: the sharing of life, makes life all the richer!
The dance of life: learning the steps and realizing you weren’t as bad at it as you thought you were.
Now, come partner, I’m waiting on the edge of the dance floor, ready to go. All that’s missing is you!